Am I misunderstanding how the Dark Side works?

I see conversations and posts both here and elsewhere about fans wanting to see more grey Jedi, or how they thought that was the direction the sequel trilogy was going to go. That grey Jedi are the only true balance of the Force. "There is no light, there is no dark, there is only the Force." kind of thing. That they are better and stronger than the Jedi and the Sith because they tap into both the light and dark sides and balance both within themselves. Strength from peace and emotion.Definitely correct me if I'm wrong but my impression of the Dark Side isn't that it's about drawing strength from emotions, it's about drawing power from the worst aspects of yourself. Sith Lords like Vader and Maul aren't getting power from anger, they're deliberately seething in their rage and resentment, keeping it going for as long as possible. Sidious revels in his greed and all-consuming desire to control and dominate everything. Dark Side users don't love, they obsess, they possess. It goes from "I love this person" to "This person is mine. They belong to me.". Newbies to the Dark Side like Kylo Ren deliberately hurting themselves and keeping their pain going in order to get power from it.You can't find balance between the Light and the Dark Sides of the Force because you can't continuously keep dipping yourself into your absolute worst parts and not have it take it's toll both on you and those around you. That was why so many Jedi have fallen fully to the Dark Side throughout Star Wars' history, because they were arrogant enough to believe that they were wise enough or powerful enough or just different and special enough not to be corrupted by it, even though the entire point of the Dark Side seems to be to corrupt.I was under the impression that the problem with the Jedi prior to their fall with Order 66 wasn't that they weren't balancing themselves with the Light and Dark but rather that they believed the best way to avoid the temptations of the Dark Side was to cut themselves off from attachment and emotion, meaning that when a member of their order encountered something that did prompt an emotional reaction from them, like a Padawan seeing their master killed right in front of them, they have no idea how to handle it, making it even more likely to turn them to the Dark Side, or at least drastically throw them off balance.It seems like the ideal of what balanced Force user in Star Wars is is like Luke, who loved his friends greatly and was capable of the same great rage as his father, yet when the time came he made the deliberate choice of peace over violence. Kanan Jarrus, who loved Hera romantically, enough that they had a child together, and the Ghost crew like a family, yet did not attempt to possess them. He protected them, he loved and appreciated them, and when the time came he was willing to sacrifice himself for them and specifically for them, not for himself. Even non-Force users like Din show it, loving someone like Grogu with all his heart but being willing to let him go for that person's sake and keep loving and supporting them regardless. To have peace by denying emotion was the Jedi taking the easy out. It's easy to have stillness in nothing, it's hard when you actually have other people and things in your world.TL;DR: I don't think you can find a balance with the Dark Side of the Force. You can't embrace the worst aspects of yourself and not expect them to corrupt you, no matter how much meditation or light side stuff you do along with it. via /r/StarWars https://ift.tt/yBkYUZc